Secret Sins
[Jesus said,] "You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28-29)
Throughout His ministry Jesus used the Law of Moses in the way I believe God intended it to be used, to demonstrate to us how incapable we are of fulfilling its demands. We humans want rules when it comes to a relationship with God; if we can obey all of them we can feel sure of earning our salvation by our own merits. If we can comply with every jot and tittle of the Law we can stand and pray with ourselves, “God, I thank you that I am not like other men” (Luke 18:10). But God’s ways are not our ways.
We humans spend a lot of time thinking about sex. After the need for food and sleep it is our most powerful biological need. To exacerbate the situation for us we are bombarded with sex information and sexually arousing images from television, film, print media, the Internet. So how do we avoid “lusting after” someone and committing adultery in our hearts?
There are two answers to this. The first is that I believe, when Jesus said this, he was speaking about something more than that instantaneous sexual attraction, that little physical “zing” we sometimes experience toward another person. If it was this that Jesus was speaking about we are truly all without hope. But I don’t believe this is what Jesus meant. When He says “lusting after” I believe He means thinking about that other person in a sexual way, fantasizing – even pursuing. This sort of “lusting after” requires an act of the will, which the other does not.
The other answer is, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” God, through the agency of the Holy Spirit, the Christ-life within us, can transform our hearts and bar our way into this kind of self-destructive and disobedient behavior. When we are “transformed by the renewing of [our] mind[s],” (Romans 12:2) we will fulfill the “good and acceptable and perfect will of God” (ibid.).
Preachers down through the ages have used Matthew 5:28-29 to try and keep a rein on their congregations’ impulses toward sexual dalliance. In much the same way as my father, when he saw I was considering some act of obedience, would warn me “Don’t even think about it!” pastors have urged their parishioners to steer clear of the whole topic of sexual immorality altogether. But surely this laudable and good effort was doomed to failure, and the history of the Church is replete with examples that it did fail, among communicants and clergy alike. Why? Because we, in our own strength, cannot fulfill the Law.
So far, so good. We now understand that “unless God builds the house, they labor in vain that build it”, that God alone is capable of creating holiness within us. “But so what?” we might answer. “I don’t lust in my heart after anybody, and I certainly don’t commit adultery.” But as I read this passage this morning it seemed to me that Jesus was talking about more than just sexual sin. We focus on sexual sin because, well, it’s what we do. Some of us have gotten the idea that sexual sin is the worst type of sin. Others like to go on about sexual sin because they’re not vulnerable to it, so they can enjoy feeling superior to those of us who are.
Jesus’ point in Matthew 5 is twofold. First, it’s not enough to appear to be holy. Doing things that God approves, and not doing things that He condemns, will not justify you in His eyes. We must have holy hearts. Second, we don’t have the ability, absent the Holy Spirit, to conform our hearts to God’s law. Look again at what Jesus says in Matthew 5. He equates what we would characterize as a harmless sexual fantasy with adultery. Earlier, He equated calling your brother a fool with murder.
If such common little human impulses are on a par with murder and adultery, what hope do any of us have? Only one. “I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me” (Galatians 2:20). We must die to all those little human, i.e. anti-God, impulses, and be resurrected in the life of Christ.
God bless,
- Chad
Throughout His ministry Jesus used the Law of Moses in the way I believe God intended it to be used, to demonstrate to us how incapable we are of fulfilling its demands. We humans want rules when it comes to a relationship with God; if we can obey all of them we can feel sure of earning our salvation by our own merits. If we can comply with every jot and tittle of the Law we can stand and pray with ourselves, “God, I thank you that I am not like other men” (Luke 18:10). But God’s ways are not our ways.
We humans spend a lot of time thinking about sex. After the need for food and sleep it is our most powerful biological need. To exacerbate the situation for us we are bombarded with sex information and sexually arousing images from television, film, print media, the Internet. So how do we avoid “lusting after” someone and committing adultery in our hearts?
There are two answers to this. The first is that I believe, when Jesus said this, he was speaking about something more than that instantaneous sexual attraction, that little physical “zing” we sometimes experience toward another person. If it was this that Jesus was speaking about we are truly all without hope. But I don’t believe this is what Jesus meant. When He says “lusting after” I believe He means thinking about that other person in a sexual way, fantasizing – even pursuing. This sort of “lusting after” requires an act of the will, which the other does not.
The other answer is, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” God, through the agency of the Holy Spirit, the Christ-life within us, can transform our hearts and bar our way into this kind of self-destructive and disobedient behavior. When we are “transformed by the renewing of [our] mind[s],” (Romans 12:2) we will fulfill the “good and acceptable and perfect will of God” (ibid.).
Preachers down through the ages have used Matthew 5:28-29 to try and keep a rein on their congregations’ impulses toward sexual dalliance. In much the same way as my father, when he saw I was considering some act of obedience, would warn me “Don’t even think about it!” pastors have urged their parishioners to steer clear of the whole topic of sexual immorality altogether. But surely this laudable and good effort was doomed to failure, and the history of the Church is replete with examples that it did fail, among communicants and clergy alike. Why? Because we, in our own strength, cannot fulfill the Law.
So far, so good. We now understand that “unless God builds the house, they labor in vain that build it”, that God alone is capable of creating holiness within us. “But so what?” we might answer. “I don’t lust in my heart after anybody, and I certainly don’t commit adultery.” But as I read this passage this morning it seemed to me that Jesus was talking about more than just sexual sin. We focus on sexual sin because, well, it’s what we do. Some of us have gotten the idea that sexual sin is the worst type of sin. Others like to go on about sexual sin because they’re not vulnerable to it, so they can enjoy feeling superior to those of us who are.
Jesus’ point in Matthew 5 is twofold. First, it’s not enough to appear to be holy. Doing things that God approves, and not doing things that He condemns, will not justify you in His eyes. We must have holy hearts. Second, we don’t have the ability, absent the Holy Spirit, to conform our hearts to God’s law. Look again at what Jesus says in Matthew 5. He equates what we would characterize as a harmless sexual fantasy with adultery. Earlier, He equated calling your brother a fool with murder.
If such common little human impulses are on a par with murder and adultery, what hope do any of us have? Only one. “I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me” (Galatians 2:20). We must die to all those little human, i.e. anti-God, impulses, and be resurrected in the life of Christ.
God bless,
- Chad
